MyWords | Can you call your relationship healthy?
Take a minute and think about your partner. Are you thinking about how exciting your relationship is? Or how handsome he is? Or how pretty she is? Or how you guys are so great together? Or how you love your partner so much?
But have you ever given a thought to this simple thing – Is your relationship healthy? Are you happy from the deep down, scary bottom of your heart? Is the relationship worth some things you are missing out on?
If you have, great. If not, please, take second and question yourself.
This article is not about lecturing you on how you can make your relationship better or how you can stay happy with your partner. You know your partner well. Forming a trusting and positive partnership takes effort and time. And unfortunately, it doesn’t just happen overnight. For any relationship to grow strong and stay strong, you need to put in some work.
There are some things every couple should take care of, not just to stay in love, but to maintain a healthy bond. And don’t read and implement, learn with time, like I did.
Give respect, then you will get some back.
Maintaining a joyful relationship means respecting your partner’s time, heart, character, and trust. Avoid things that can break down respect, like name-calling, talking negatively about the other to friends or family, and/or threatening to leave the relationship.
- QUALITY TIME
The best gift two people can give each other is some quality time. Remember, quantity does not matter, quality does. Things as simple as having lunch together, every day can bring you closer than you’d have thought! It’s fine to zone out together and enjoy distractions, but it’s crucial to make sure you two are still engaging and spending quality time together to maintain a deep connection.
- TIME APART
As important as it is to spend enough time together, it is equally crucial to spend time apart from each other. When couples spend too much time together, it can create an unhealthy codependence. Maintaining healthy boundaries and some autonomy will make for a long-lasting partnership.
- LOVE SIGNS AND LANGUAGES
People have unique ways of feeling loved. It’s important to know which love language speaks to you, along with your partner. Telling each other what makes you feel loved and special helps both of you stay connected. Furthermore, make sure you are attending to your partner’s love language consistently. You can start by coming up with unique names for each other, which nobody else uses.
- STOP FOCUSING ON THE BAD
It’s vital that you look at your partner’s positive qualities, in contrast to the negative. Nobody is perfect, and that includes your significant other. So instead of focusing on the bad, make a conscious effort to look at the good.
- PHYSICAL INTIMACY
Little signs of physical intimacy are important in keeping the spark alive. Different couples have different signs like holding hands, giving pecks before leaving, bear hugs etc. These help you feel connected to your partner and calm you down. So, Do not shy away from adopting one.
- APPRECIATIONS AND COMPARISONS
Always try to appreciate your partner’s efforts and never compare.
Show your special someone that you love him or her. This could be done with words, cards, flowers, acts of kindness, or more. Remember, a flower a day keeps the fights at bay. Okay, maybe not every day, but you get the point.
Also, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Or even if it is, it might not be the kind of grass you would like. With the help of social media, we tend to compare our relationships as well. But the happiest of couples don’t look to see what the grass looks like on the other side.
People in healthy relationships have immense personal growth whereas, people in toxic relationships stay the same, however long the relationship is. So, being in healthy equals being in happy!