MannatSpeak: Actions Speak Louder than Words
Too many people today say they are sorry without really meaning it or thinking about their actions, and they turn around and repeat the same behaviors time and time again. When you make a mistake or hurt someone an apology is called for, but apologies don’t mean anything if you keep doing what you’re sorry for.
If you are truly apologetic then you will take special care to make sure that you do not repeat the damaging or hurtful actions that lead to the need for an apology.
I mean sure, apologizing is a start but its not the end to it.
After all, I’ve always felt actions speak louder than words. As nice as it may be to hear those two special words — “I’m sorry” — ultimately, they’re just that: words.
We’ve grown up with being taught the golden rules of life- always say- ‘Please’, ‘Thank you’ and “Sorry”. Regardless of the whatever act we commit- horrible or petty; we apologize to the point where they almost feel like formalities. It’s as if we’re accustomed to saying “sorry,” but not always accustomed to feeling remorse.
Of course, there are times when people you care about might’ve done something they regret, and their apologies were genuine. But, at the end of the day, apologies are meaningless unless they prompt new action — and a lot of times, they don’t.
If someone did do you wrong, never hold a grudge against them on behalf of his or her inability to say those two words. We reach a point where there comes a need to turn those words into action because words could only go so far.
You need to address the words or actions that caused the damage or hurt feelings to ensure that this does not happen again in the future. An apology is just words, and these words are meaningless if the right emotions are not behind them. Sometimes people say they are sorry just to end a controversy or dispute, others may say the words just to make the peace.
When apologies are actually genuine, though, they’re some of the most powerful displays of affection that people can make. Apologies prove that a person cares enough about someone (or something) to push his or her pride aside and work toward a resolution.
For instance, if your significant other acts irrationally in haste or says something he or she truly wishes went unsaid, you’ll probably know it’s genuine, instantly. While they say true love seeks no apology, it’s always a warm feeling to know your partner is aware of his or her own shortcomings.
Although if someone knows youre hurting for reasons they caused and yet do something more to only damage the situation, you know its not real. The apology was only namesake.
Apologies remind us to be conscious. If people never admit they’re wrong or look to make amends, it will only be a matter of time before they lose their general awareness of how their actions affect the people around them.
People who don’t filter their own comments or respect the feelings of others can easily lose sight of how their own behavior resonates with certain people.
For bigger problems, like shattered trust or even cheating for that matter, “im sorry” doesn’t even begin to cover it. It requires a constant effort to prove youre genuinely apologetic and looking to mend waves. It should and has to show in your actions because mind you, someone who’s been put in that person wouldn’t exactly come back to you with a “sorry” sticky note on the mirror. It has to come in waves, consistently.
So, although I never get too hung up on the words “I’m sorry,” it’s impossible to say that I don’t appreciate hearing them.
But unless they spark new, more thoughtful, action, in the end, they’re, again, just words.